Wednesday, April 17, 2013

Why older women should not date younger boys.

So, I'm finally going to be in my twenties, come this June and many of my friends who are about the same age as I am are choosing to date younger boys, say, around 16? 15? 

To me, I think that it is ridiculous, I wouldn't mind if this happened when the women was in her late 30s and the man was in his early 30s because they'd both already be mature by then. Maybe not all but most of them anyway.

But, through what I see, many of my girlfriends who date younger boys end up getting themselves hurt. I wouldn't be surprised. You chose to date a boy, who is still figuring out things about himself. He's only dating you to look cool among his friends.

Even some of my younger brother's friend have said things like I, my brother's sister is "hot". Like, I was honestly in the "WHAT THE HELL?" kind of a situation. They asked how old I was and when he said, 20, guess what they said??? "Ah, still got chance"

Then again, I always say that they're joking. Just to tease my brother. Guys.

Anyway, back to my point. I wouldn't even date guys my age because most of them still haven't actually "discovered" themselves and they're boys. I don't want to date someone that I will have to babysit, no way. 

I hate those needy, clingy, possessive, jealous, irritating and narcissistic kind of people. I hate when they expect me to give them all of my time but they expect me to wait when I need them. I hate those clingy boyfriends who has to be around me all the time. I hate those jealous boyfriends that get jealous so easily even when you talk to a random stranger whose gender is male. I hate those irritating boyfriends who make a fuss about not calling them "baby" or expect you to listen to the same bullcrap story that they keep whining about. I hate those boyfriends who workout and they think they look so good. I hate those guys who think they can get any girl they want because of their body or looks. I used to not see looks or body, but honestly, just be average. We like to see men with extremely good features, but we'd never date them because they've got wandering eyes and they wouldn't stay (most of them).

I hate all these kind of things and this just reminds me of the movie, "The Ugly Truth", where men say that women are only looking for a man who fit their checklist, no, I don't have a checklist, actually, I do, but that's besides the point. Isn't it important to have certain standards in a man. Don't tell me you'd pick up anyone just because he's cute?

I know that men are programmed to think about sex all the time. But I think in my case, they'd have to forget all about it because I believe in abstinence, I do think that some people will abstain from having sex before marriage, but it's rare. But in Asian countries, it's easier to find although not that easy now.

I think dating younger guys is like dating your younger brother, although not literally, but the age gap makes it seem that way. Of course, they have the "baby face" that everyone loves but they don't have the mental maturity that older men have. 

Boys are still in the stage of experimenting with new things and don't tell me you would want to be a part of their experiment, being an older girl, I know there are quite a number of younger boys who would date me, I even had a stalker once who harassed my friend for my number, but I think that it's not worth it.

Even if someone my age told me they love me, I would ask why? I wouldn't just jump into a relationship just because someone tells me they love me. Maybe 3 years back, I would? I don't know. But most definitely, I never actually "liked" any guys for real. My attention span doesn't actually last long. 

I would want a long lasting relationship, no doubt about it. But I don't think you can do it with a boy, you just cannot. Maybe if you met when you both were already working, then, it could work. I mean, imagine, driving him around, paying for his expenses and all that. I'm not willing to do that.

If I was dating someone, I think I wouldn't want to pay for him or him to pay for me. Once, in a while, I do think it's fine. I don't mind paying or going dutch. But, if you were dating younger boys, you cannot be sure of anything. Say, he could have you as his girlfriend out of school and have another one in school and you wouldn't know a thing. You'd be totally detached from his friends because you couldn't mingle with them when you have friends of different age, sure you could sit there like a dumb idiot and try to start a conversation, but, no. Don't embarrass yourself.

Facebook relationship status. I honestly, would not put my relationship status on Facebook for everyone to see, I wouldn't even put pictures of me and him, I don't want the whole world to know what I'm doing with him. Normal pictures of your food would be okay, but don't tell me you want to put pictures of him hugging you. When you break up or IF you break up? Then, what happens to all those pictures?

Besides, I'm a muslim and we're not supposed to even be in a relationship. But, I think there are too many crazy people in this world, so, I will have to know them first, but just on dates, and no touching. I seriously cannot stand people touching me. Even if someone touched me by accident, I over dramaticize. 

It's fine if you're a non-muslim if you want to hug, kiss and all that, but I would say, don't have sex before marriage. It's a special thing, don't do it with someone you're not sure you're going to spend the rest of your life with. I mean, even if you got married, some don't last, so, what makes you think that a relationship would last? 

I know I'd probably have to meet a number of guys before actually settling down with them, but I think many people don't view the marriage constitution as something holy and they choose to get married at such a young age and then get divorced after a few years. Not my ideal relationship or marriage.

I have my personal views that cannot be used in the modern world. Maybe because I'm traditional minded and I love how the old fashioned way is, like courting and the men meeting the women's fathers. But, I don't know. I don't know if there are still people like that these days.

Anyway, my mum is back and I need to eat lunch and call my dad. 

Till my next post.

This post's hot guy:

Adam Levine

Need I say more? He's perfect.

Tuesday, April 2, 2013

Don't Like It? Scroll Past It.

Have you ever had the time when you posted a status, a photo or maybe even a blog post,  which meant no harm to anyone and is just your form of amusement which obviously some people don't find it funny and they feel the need to make remarks on your comment.

I mean, it's still okay if someone asked you what it meant and things like that. But you know how it is when people leave snide comments on your statuses/photo/blog post or whatever. It's so annoying that: 

1. They don't get the point.
2. They over think bullcrap in their mind and assume that it's about something.
3. They feel the need to question everything just to TRY to make you look bad.
4. They give their unwanted opinion.

Okay, so we know, when on social media, the purpose of it is to "CONNECT" with friends and family, but most of the time, we don't actually do that, we post stupid things that nobody wants to know. What's worst is when someone has tumblr sayings as their statuses in order to gain more likes.

But, you know the few people that you don't particularly like, but don't particularly hate and you somehow still have them on your friends list and they in return decides to comment on something that you post and clearly they dislike you for whatever reason it maybe? Or perhaps, you've never in spoken to them?

Yup, if you know what I'm talking about, don't you just find these people so annoying? I mean, first of all, there's a like button, not a dislike button, hence, if you don't like it, SCROLL PAST IT! No one asked you to comment, some people feel the need to comment on almost everything. I mean, what are you trying to proof? "I AM SMARTER THAN YOU"? "I'M ACTUALLY MUCH FUNNIER THAN YOU"? "I'M TRYING TO BE A FOOL"?, I don't know it defeats the purpose of networking, you just get really annoyed that you want to unfriend them, but you don't want to have problems with them, so you "uncheck" the "Show in newsfeed" and you stay away from their profile, because even the sight of them can get you in "rolling eye mode".

Oh, since we're on the same topic, let me just continue with what annoys me.

You know how some people take a picture of themselves and tag a whole bunch of people. I mean, maybe a whole load of people, bunch is such an understatement. AND THE MOST ANNOYING PART IS WHEN IT'S THE GUYS WHO DO THAT. Just for likes? I mean, that's low.

Why only guys? Well, because some girls act like ratchets, show some cleavage and then 

"BAM!" 1000000000++++ likes.

OH NO, I'm not done. Some girls, after posting slutty pictures of themselves can still post statuses like, "Why doesn't anyone respect me? I'm human too. You can't talk to a woman like that" *THE HELL DID I JUST READ?* You're a whore!! Taking slutty pictures is not classy or appealing. Maybe to some guys, scratch that, most guys, but that doesn't meant they'd respect you, they'd just think that you're easy.

Never forgetting those people who says, "Baby, I miss eu sho sho muchiexx. Can't w8 2 c eu bb... xxxx... Is it so hard to use normal, human english? Rather than stupid abbreviations that don't even exist? OMG!! 

And then there are those who take a pretty picture of themselves, upload it as their profile picture and then caption it with nonsense that don't even relate, "Prayer is not asking. It is a longing of the soul. It is daily admission of one's weakness. It is better in prayer to have a heart without words than words without a heart- Mahatma Ghandi" 


The most annoying one yet is "The Scanner", you know those who are too lazy to read your whole post, so they just scan through, and after that they leave a comment analyzing what you DIDN'T say and putting words in your mouth. They assume everything, thinking that they know it all, yes, this is also, in line with "The-Know-It-All", the person who thinks that they know everything and that your facts are wrong, who ends up embarrassing themselves but still chooses to do it anyway.

Last but not least, "The-Overthink-er", this person, thinks about what you say, puts their own emotions in your words and thinks that they are talking about you or that somehow you're a depressed piece of sod. You would think that it would be mostly girls, but NO, They're actually guys who do this which really gets me so vexed at times. To the point that if they were actually in front of me, I would punch them in the face. I'm not even joking.

I guess that's about it, those with a problem with me, I don't care if you "unfriend" me, or trash talk me to other people or whatever it is that you people do. Sorry niggers, I'm here to stay, don't like it, not my problem. Remember that what you say about other doesn't define who they are, it defines who you are. 

You've just got to put SHIT in the BIN.

This post's hot guy: Pierce Brosnan

He may be old, but whatever, he's hot, if you've seen James Bond, you'd know him, he acted alongside Robert Pattinson in the movie "Remember Me" and so many other high profiled movies. So, yeah, whatever, love him. He's an amazing husband to his wife and an amazing father towards his children. 

Adios Amigos. 

Till my next post.xx